From the Rector - November 2017

Dear Friends,

As I write, the leaves on the trees are turning to yellow and gold, the days are getting shorter and there is a chill in the air. The days can seem gloomy and it’s perhaps natural that our thoughts turn towards endings. The year itself is coming to an end; however we all know that the year will begin again and whilst we have the harshness of winter to face, we also have the hope of springtime.

The arrival of November signals the beginning of a series of festivities; be it Bonfire night and fireworks or Advent Carols. We move from the quiet sadness and grief of All Souls and Remembrance Sunday, into a time when we remember that we DO have hope - not just for Christmas coming, but for the assurance of eternal life in heaven.

Our Development Project for Donhead St Andrew Church is making excellent progress and you will notice that our last service there is on Sunday 10th December in order to allow time to prepare the building for works to commence. The traditional service of Nine Lessons & Carols will be held at Donhead St Mary, and there will be services across the Benefice during the Christmas period. Gift Aid envelopes for Donhead St Andrew will be available should you wish to continue your giving during this period.

I’d like to share a story with you...

A Father and Daughter were saying goodbye at an airport. Her plane had been called. I was sitting nearby and heard him say ‘I wish you enough’. They kissed goodbye and she added ‘I wish you enough too’. Then she left to board her plane. As he watched her go. he was crying. I asked him if there was anything I could do. He shook his head, but smiled and thanked me. ‘I am saying goodbye to my daughter forever. I am old and I have an illness that will soon take its toll. My daughter lives a long way away. She has work to do and so have I. We both know that when she returns it will be for my funeral’. I said ‘I heard you say “I wish you enough"; what did you mean?‘ He smiled again, ‘It’s a saying in our family, passed down through generations. I don't quite know where it came from, but it's precious to us’. Then he closed his eyes a moment and spoke it from memory.

I wish you enough sun to keep your outlook bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit strong.
I wish you enough pain to make life’s joys precious.
I wish you enough luck to satisfy your needs.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate what you keep.
I wish enough 'Hellos' to get you through the final ‘Good-bye‘.

As Christians we are not untouched by death. but we also have the hope of springtime: the springtime of the eternal life to come.

My friends, I wish you enough.

Yours ever,


From the Rector - October 2017

Dear Friends,

Benefice LogoThe observant among you may have noticed that we have been using a new logo for the Benefice.The old logo was a simple clip-art picture. Our friend Lynda Appleby, who you will know is an exceptionally talented artist living in the Donheads and is one of our elected Parochial Church Councillors, has designed a new one for us.

Lynda worked through several drafts trying to incorporate various architectural features of our six churches. We then looked at combinations of maps and other features. Lynda in the end came up with an image of St Bartholomew himself.

In one way it is incredibly simple; in another sense it conveys several intricacies and connections. The image created by Lynda is a depiction of a statue of St Bartholomew on the Great West Front of Salisbury Cathedral. The statue was made between 1867-69 by James Redfern. It is therefore a reminder to us that as all the churches and communities are connected through the Benefice, we have a wider connection through our Deanery and Diocese.We are connected wider still to all the church. We hope that this simple logo of an image of our Benefice patron will also be a continual reminder of our interconnectedness and mutual need for each other.

On the border between Semley parish and Donhead St Andrew there stood a Chapel, now incorporated into a house. St Bartholomew’s was a Roman Catholic Chapel served from Wardour and opened in 1887. Mass was said each Sunday from at least 1938 and it closed in 1960. I think it is a good thing that our Benefice reminds us also of the connections in faith with our brothers and sisters across the family of the church. On that note may I encourage you to attend a talk by Fr Luke Bell of the Order of St Benedict from Quarr Abbey on the 21st October 2017 at Tisbury Methodist Church - talk starts at 11.50 am with refreshments beforehand.

And a big thank you to Lynda!

Finally, on Sunday 29th October 2017 at 4.00 pm in St Mary’s Church, East Knoyle, we are having a service of remembrance for our departed loved ones. If you would like anybody remembered by name, please leave their details on the sheet in Church. Alternatively, send the information in an email to the Benefice Office by clicking here, and when the new window opens, click on the ‘Contact Form’ tab to send your email.

Yours ever,


From the Rector - August 2017

Dear Friends,

In July, a group of 10 pilgrims from our Benefice went on a pilgrimage to Walsingham, alongside the parish of Bathwick (where Anna was Director of Music and l was an Associate Priest prior to becoming Rector here 2 years ago).

The shrine at Walsingham marks the place where a noblewoman called Richeldis de Faverches had a vision of Mary in 1061. It became a place of pilgrimage at the time and through the Middle Ages, and this tradition was revived in the twentieth century.

Walsingham is ecumenical and multicultural. The Anglican Shrine in Walsingham itself is balanced with its Roman Catholic opposite number at nearby Houghton St Giles. As well as Walsingham’s Parish Church there is the recently rebuilt Roman Catholic Church. The village also possesses a fine Georgian Methodist Church. Within the Anglican Shrine is a tiny Orthodox Chapel, located at the top of a tall staircase in the apse, and Walsingham’s long-disused railway station, upon which is perched a tiny Byzantine dome, now functions as the Orthodox Church of St Seraphim.

Pilgrimage combines the individual and personal, together with the communal. Some of the most intensely personal moments at Walsingham are those experienced within a service with a particular focus on sickness and healing, with the laying on of hands and anointing. Associated with this is the sprinkling at the well, which reminds one of references in Scripture to water and encounters at wells. Also, of great poignancy is the row upon row of votive candles, thanksgiving offerings for blessings received, tokens of prayers for the sick and remembrance of those who have completed their earthly pilgrimage.

Here are some thoughts from Stuart Asbury, who joined us:

”This was not my first visit to Walsingham but the first time to have stayed at the Shrine. The experience is entirely different. As a resident, one is part of a living, praying community. One meets all manner of people. At supper one evening I sat next to two men from Doncaster. They came on a pilgrimage there every year, escaping from their work as a miner and a railwayman. A memorable year for them has been when Michael Ramsey, a former Archbishop of Canterbury, had been a fellow pilgrim.

The first evening, we all met in the Holy House, which forms the heart of the Shrine Church. After supper many of us had an early night but some remained awake enjoying spiritual gifts in a liquid form.

Each day began with Morning Prayer in a simple chapel in the grounds. A leisurely breakfast followed in the Refectory, a bright, modern and spacious addition to the Shrine, where good wholesome food was served very efficiently. The Eucharist was celebrated daily - once in the Holy House but on other occasions in a side chapel.

Water has long been recognised as an agent of spiritual purification and healing. In the shrine. there is a Holy Well and we met there for sprinkling followed by Ministries of healing and reconciliation. On my first visit, i remember the cluster of abandoned walking aids — no longer required as healing had taken place.

Under the Norfolk sunshine, we walked the Stations of the Cross in the beautifully tended Shrine gardens. Starting with Jesus being condemned to death and culminating with His glorious resurrection. This act of devotion concluded with the veneration of the Relic of the True Cross. A simple but powerful ceremony reminding us that the Holy Cross has redeemed the world.

The climax of our pilgrimage was undoubtedly the procession through the gardens. The pictures show how some of us were involved. For my part it was an anxious time. The Master of Ceremonies gave me some instruction. It may be that I will not be asked again! We all returned to the Shrine Church for Benediction, where the blessed sacrament is placed on the High Altar in a sea of candles, gold leaf and clouds of incense. This is indeed high drama and one needs to be present to appreciate the splendour of the moment. It takes one’s thoughts away from the troubles of this world to the Throne of God.

We left Walsingham firmly resolved to return very soon and to pray for the life of the Shrine.”

So, a wonderful week, full of friendship and warmth set in beautiful surroundings and a time for restoration of the soul. People came with the problems of the world on their shoulders and were able to lay them down. it's a busy schedule, lots to do but with no obligation to do it ail, maybe you just need rest and peace.

It is so hard to describe exactly how the Walsingham magic works; a heady mix of devotion, prayer, wonder, mystery, beauty and the sense of being involved in something so much bigger and deeper than oneself.

Everyone is welcome to join us for next year's pilgrimage to Walsingham; new friends. are friends and children! Bookings are now being taken.

Yours in Christ,



Below are some photographs from the pilgrimage - click on each picture to see a larger version….



From the Rector - July 2017

Dear Friends,

First of all l want to record my (and our) thanks to The Rev’d Canon William Burke who came to help us in the Benefice shortly after I arrived. He had retired to Shaftesbury but soon discovered he “needed to work”. He has been a great help in the Benefice both in taking services but also in pastoral care of our congregations - and also of me; being a very encouraging, loyal and supportive colleague. He is leaving to take up the unusual post of House for Duty Rural Dean in the Diocese of Ely. We wish him well and thank him sincerely.

At the time of writing, we have recently returned from a wonderful driving holiday in Europe. On the whole, the weather was wonderful!

This led me to consider how we so often talk about and reflect on the weather here in the UK. That is not surprising really, because it is always changing. With the weather changing so frequently there is the sense that if you blink you can miss a season (usually summer) and we spend the rest of the year longing for that summer season. From time to time, I get the feeling that we approach life in a similar way; we look forward to a time when everything will be perfect in our lives, but then we never quite reach that point, or if we do it is such a short and transient stage that it has passed before we realise it, and so, we then look back with a sense of sad wistfulness on that perfect time, and yearn for it to come again.

Whenever I catch myself thinking like that I try to stop and instead of longing for something else, try to value the life that l have and the moment of life that is now. It is not always easy to do that, but if we as Christians believe that life is a gift, given by God, then we should always seek to appreciate what we are given and make the most of it, seeing it in the most positive light.

There are probably too many times in all our lives when we feel grumpy about our lot because we don't have what we want, our health has let us down or we just carry with us a sense of weariness. When you become aware of these tendencies in your own demeanour, just stop and remind yourself that this life is God‘s gift to you, try to appreciate it and live it to the full. If you approach your life in that way you may be surprised at how enjoyable it can be, and also how your sense of enjoyment seems to be contagious and infects those around you.

Finally, somebody once asked me what I thought as I approached the altar? This struck me, as I'd never really thought about this question (and indeed, thought it an odd one!) until the same question was asked by a fellow student at theological college of our Principal.The Principal was a deeply spiritual man with a first rate mind, so I was surprised by his answer; he said he thought “oh, hello Jesus, it’s me again”. At first I thought he was joking, but he wasn't.

When I approach the altar these days, l often repeat the phrase of The Jesus Prayer ‘Lord Jesus Christ, son of God, have mercy on me a sinner’, but I can’t help myself from thinking “oh, hello Jesus, it’s me again”. At first l found this amusing, then it quickly became irritating and now l accept it as a valid prayer to God, revealing more of his intimacy and love than mine.

Yours ever,


From the Rector - June 2017

Dear Friends

As a child I loved balloons. These of course were just ordinary balloons that had been blown up by breath.... They couldn’t fly and if you let go of them they would drop to the ground. Sophia and Tilly also love balloons - however they are now more sophisticated, helium filled. These of course float in the air and if you aren’t careful could fly away completely.

The story of Jesus’s ascension into heaven is quite an amazing picture with the disciples standing there looking up as Jesus vanishes into the clouds. The important thing to note here though, is that after Jesus disappeared in this way, the disciples didn’t stand there gazing into heaven doing nothing but wait for his coming back. They weren’t frozen in the moment. They weren’t numbed with a sense of loss... No, the disciples went straight back to the temple, continued praising God and made ready for the next step in their mission to the world.

The disciples were filled with joy, filled with hope, and filled with purpose. Just one more thing was needed and that was the coming of the promised Holy Spirit, the power of God coming among them from on high, the life breath that would fill them with God’s spirit. That of course took place at Pentecost.

Before Pentecost the disciples were more like those balloons l described from my early childhood - they were still balloons all right, they were still great fun, you could still do lots of things with them... But they couldn’t really fly, they couldn't really soar into the sky... something was missing. After Pentecost the disciples were more like those helium-filled balloons - ready to fly, ready to go wherever they were blown by the spirit.

By the time you read this, Ascension and Pentecost will have likely passed - so I wonder where you will be? Will you be like the post Pentecost disciples? Will you be like the Helium balloons - ready to soar and fly wherever the Holy Spirit sends you? I think we should resolve to follow the example of the disciples and not be people who stand still and only look to the sky towards a distant God and a faraway Jesus. but instead let’s make ourselves a people who are open to the coming of the Holy Spirit, ready to be sent out into the world in action, ready to make a difference in the name of the living God.

With that in mind, June 2017 is a busy month within the Benefice with both village and church events. I would like to draw your attention to a few of these things...

On Saturday 17th June 2017, Donhead St Mary with St John's Charlton have a Family Barn Dance from 18:00 to 22:00, and on Sunday 18th June 2017, we welcome Bishop Edward to St John’s Church, Charlton, where we will be celebrating their Patronal Festival at 11.00 am. All welcome.

On Saturday 1st July 2017, there will be a social event at The Rectory, to which wedding couples from recent years, baptism candidates and young families from the Benefice are invited to celebrate those happy occasions and also to get to know each other.

Yours ever,


From the Rector - May 2017

Dear Friends,

There are always people to thank. I have been particularly aware of this over the past two months as I have tried to capture my thanks for all those who work hard, often unseen, for us across the Benefice as I have been doing our rounds of Annual Parochial Church Meetings.

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I want to reiterate my thanks to our active clergy and lay people who lead or take part in our worship especially over the Lent, Holy Week, Triduum and Easter services. Also to those who have made our church buildings look so splendid with cleaning, flower arranging, linen, frontals and all that jazz. I think it makes a tremendous difference to the richness of our worship.

Congratulations and/or commiserations to all those with new roles following our APCMs. I do, however, wish to pay a special tribute to the work of Suzanne and Chris Sandford from East Knoyle. Suzanne has served as Churchwarden at St Mary's for fifteen years and I believe Chris has been the Treasurer for even longer. They have both served with dedication and devotion and have been a great support to my family and I since we arrived in the Benefice (since before actually!). Suzanne suffered from a bout of ill health just before Christmas and they both decided it was time to step down. They were both supportive across the Benefice and so on your behalf I offer them special thanks for their length and quality of service. Suzanne is also the editor of our Benefice Magazine and is continuing in this role. Her release from being Warden has meant she has already popped up in other churches of ours as the new magazine paparazzi. She was clearly not behind the camera for this shot of her as she retired and Chris was obviously hiding.

Yours ever,

From the Rector - April 2017 - The Ven. John Holliman

John HollimanThe Venerable John Holliman and I were both Incumbents in the Diocese of Chichester, though didn't know each other at the time. He retired to the Salisbury Diocese and was an invaluable part of the Ministry Team in our Benefice. He served us with loyalty and faithfulness under two incumbents and was key during the vacancy. He knew the people of the Benefice well and cared very deeply for them.

John died peacefully at 5am on the 4th March 2017 fortified by the rites of the church. Please keep Evis, Karl, Aurora, Sian and their families in your prayers.

He was ordained Deacon in 1967 and priested the following year. He served his title in my native Derbyshire serving as Assistant Curate in Tideswell. John was a Chaplain to the Forces from 1971 and retired from the Army as Deputy Chaplain General and Archdeacon for the Army. He then served as an Incumbent in Funtington, Sennicotts and West Stoke from 1999 and served as Rural Dean of Westbourne from 2004. He was also an Honorary Chaplain to the Queen from 1994 to 1999.

In our local community he was also Chairman of Shaftesbury Area Talking Newspaper and maintained involvement with various organisations.

John's wishes were for a funeral service and burial in Funtington and a thanksgiving service to take place at Semley in Wiltshire at a later date. Although the majority of his ministry was spent with the Royal Army Chaplains’ Department, he often talked about his time in Chichester as he clearly loved being a parish priest there.

He requested a “Solemn Requiem Mass” which took place on Saturday 18th March 2017 at 2.30pm in West Sussex.

There will be a Thanksgiving Service at Semley on Tuesday 18th April 2017 at 2.30pm in St Leonard's Church, Semley.

John was a very humble and holy priest. We became firm friends and he was a great support to me and was willing to dispense his wisdom and experience quietly and with great humour. I also know he prayed for the people of the Benefice and our bishops and archdeacon and many others daily, and he managed to pray his daily offices, or latterly have them said to him till the end.


Richard Warhurst

From the Rector - The Ven. John Holliman

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Those familiar with the Benefice will know that the Venerable John Holliman was diagnosed with a brain tumour in July 2016. We regret to inform you that he died peacefully on Saturday morning 4th March 2017, fortified by the rites of the church.

John was a humble and holy priest. He became a firm friend and a great support to me and was willing to dispense his wisdom and experience quietly.

Please keep Evis, Karl, Aurora, Sian and their families in your prayers.

Funeral and memorial service details will be shared once confirmed.


From the Rector - January/February 2017

Dear Friends,

As you may know, our magazine Editor was ill over the Christmas period, and consequently there was no January edition of the ‘Parish News’. I therefore have to say two things. The first is a very Happy New year to you all, and the second is a thankful recognition for all that Suzanne does for us and to encourage you all to pray for her and her family as she recovers.

It seems that every February I end up writing something about Lent. That then is where I will briefly start. Easter this year falls on April 16th (April 23rd being the latest possible). I am sure many of you are very aware of this fact as it may have implications for work and for things such as school holidays. In this short piece I simply want to flag up that on Ash Wednesday (1st March) there will be a joint Sung Eucharist with imposition of ashes (isn't that a lovely phrase?) at 7.00 pm at Donhead Saint Andrew. For those unable to make that there will be a said service at 10.00 am at Sedgehill. There will also be a pancake party at the The Rectory the night before (28th February from 7.30 pm)

However, I am feeling that there is a festival that gets missed in February that deserves just a little mention here, if you will indulge me!

You may all know the gospel story of the Presentation (you can find it in St Luke Chapter 2 if you have forgotten the details): Mary and Joseph come to the Temple with their baby to make the offering required under the law for a first-born son. They are greeted there by an old man and an old woman - Simeon and Anna - who recognise the significance of the young child and say mysterious and unsettling things. This child brings hope and promise, but he is also ‘destined for the fall and rising of many in Israel’. The whole point of ‘celebrating the Presentation of Christ in the Temple - often known as Candlemas - is that it points in two directions at once; back - to the Christmas story of Christ's birth; and forward - to his Passion on Good Friday.

All through life there are bit-part characters. People who pop up from time to time, who don't seem to have much of a part to play, but who, in the cosmic scheme of things, are enormously important people. People like Simeon and Anna.

Both of them are mentioned only once in the Bible and they both have only a walk-on part. But it's such an important part that neither of them have ever been forgotten. They were both elderly people. We don't know quite how old Simeon was, but we're told Anna was eighty-four and had been a widow for many years. They had something else in common too. They were both very spiritual people. Simeon was someone who was able to listen to God, for he'd already heard from God that he wouldn't die before he'd seen the Messiah. Anna never left the temple. She worshipped with fasting and prayer, night and day. When Mary and Joseph came into the temple with Jesus, both Simeon and Anna instantly knew this baby was the long awaited Messiah. There must have been hundreds of little families every year, coming to make their offerings. Why did both Simeon and Anna single out this family as being different? I think because they'd both spent a lifetime waiting upon God. Being silent before him, praising him, praying to him, listening to him, reading his word in the Scriptures. Their whole lives for many years had been immersed in God, so that when the moment came, they recognised it.

I am convinced that what will bring people to God is a genuine love for each other, inside and outside the Church, and prayer. Prayer not only for people to come to Christ, but the very prayerfulness of the community itself. If we want to be ready, if we too want to begin to recognise the holy in the ordinary, the holy in the everyday, then we need to spend regular time alone with God. And gradually, imperceptibly, as He draws us closer, we too shall begin to spot God amongst the everyday and others will see Him in us.



From the Rector - December 2016

Dear friends,

I hope that you have a holy Advent Season and on behalf of all our church communities in the Benefice, I also pray you have a holy and blessed Christmas and New Year. I hope to see you over the Christmas period.

I also hope you have already seen news about our revision of the pattern of service, but I am aware that some people, who I expected might have, have not. I have therefore given my space over to one of our Churchwardens, Bob Thackray, who will explain the changes below, and for which I am very grateful .............




From Bob Thackray

When a group of parishioners from the five parishes that make up our Benefice met in May 2016 to discuss the possible revision of the Sunday service rota, the last thing that any of us expected was speedy agreement.

The first step was to try to understand why any change was considered necessary.

The Benefice has one priest, Richard. Those others who often take services are retired clergy who help us out of the kindness of their hearts. They will continue to do so whenever they can, but we must have a rota that can, if necessary, be operated by one priest with the help of lay leaders. With that in mind, the timings have been altered to make possible the journey from, for instance, East Knoyle to Charlton between services.

We have all noticed with some frustration the Sundays when there seem to be identical services at the same time at churches that are little more than a stone's throw apart. The new rota needed to ensure that there is one of each type of service somewhere in the Benefice on each Sunday. A balance should also be achieved between the two ends of the Benefice.

Within the bounds of these two principles, the working group quickly came up with a workable solution that gave each parish the range of services that they requested. Compromises had to be made over exact timing, and parishes had to accept that some of their services would be on different Sundays in the month — but beyond that, all fitted in well.

It is hoped that the new arrangements will provide much more for families with children. The 9.30am Sung Eucharist each week will develop to include ‘Sunday School’ activities for children in another space and also a musician and choir of adults and children moving around the Benefice with this service.

There will also be a Family Service each week for those who like something less formal which includes both children and adults throughout the worship. The Family Communion at Charlton on the third Sunday will provide a bridge for children between Family Service and the Sung Eucharist.

All 8.30am communions, 11.00am Matins and 6.00pm Evensong services will follow the Book of Common Prayer.

We have created a rota that covers the four Sundays of each month. When there is a fifth Sunday, and also on the Sundays following Christmas and Easter, there will always be just two services, a Sung Eucharist with no provision for children at Sedgehill, and a Family Service run by a team from across the Benefice at Charlton. The real hope is that churchgoers will pick the services that suit them best, wherever they are held. We are one Benefice and can keep our parish allegiances whilst moving around to worship in ways that best suit us.

The new rota will begin on 1st January 2017 with a Benefice Sung Eucharist at Sedgehill at 9.30am and a Family Service at Charlton at 11.00am. This may seem the worst possible day to launch anything new, but you are urged to put aside your headache from the night before and to venture out to one or other place. As an incentive, the hospitality following the Sedgehill Service is legendary, whilst Charlton will be serving a restorative cup of tea or coffee from 10.30am.

See you there!

Bob Thackray

PS. Click here to view, download and/or print a copy of the new pattern of services.

From the Rector - November 2016


Dear Friends,

This month I would like to use my letter to tell you about two changes that we are making across the Benefice. In recent months we have recruited and trained a group of people to be a Lay Pastoral Visiting Team. They are available across the Benefice. If you would like a visit from one of the team then please let us know in the Benefice office on 830174. If you think someone else would benefit from this service please try to discuss this with them before you ask us to visit, as we will need their consent. If you would prefer to see someone from outside your community or would prefer to see someone of a specific gender then we are very happy to try to pair you with someone most suited to you. This does not mean that I am not happy to visit. I enjoy visiting and if you specifically would like to see me I would be happy to visit. If you need a specific kind of visit such as Home Communion please do ask and we will be very happy to arrange it.

Changes to the pattern of services from January 2017:

From the first week of my taking office I have been asked how I am going to change the pattern of services. I requested at Parochial Church Councils that I had some time to get to know how things work here. The background to this is that in recent years the Benefice has gone from having three full time members of staff to having one (me). The pattern of services when I arrived had regular services at 8.30, 9.30 for 10, 9.45, 10, 10.30, 11 and 6pm. On one of our Sundays there are three services at 9.45 and one at 10.30. This means on that Sunday we need at least four different people to be available and willing to take these services every month. In January I asked each PCC to appoint four people to meet and discuss the needs of their own church and community and also to think how all services work across the Benefice. In May we came together as one large group to think how we could go forward. We decided to change all (bar one) main service time to 9.30 and 11 and retain an 8.30 and 6pm. We have worked very hard to try to make sure that there are a range of services available each Sunday and that they are less in competition with each other than they are at the moment. This means that if there are five services a Sunday, which usually there are, l am able to do 8.30, a 9.30 an 11 and a 6pm. The gap between 9.30 and 11 means that there is a gap of 30 minutes which means I have 10 minutes to say goodbye, 10 minutes to drive to the next church and 10 minutes to prepare. The 15 minutes at the moment is not very satisfactory. Each week there is a Sung Eucharist at 9.30 and in time it is envisioned that this will have a Sunday School/Children's Church and a small choir attached to it that will move around the churches. Please study the new pattern carefully so you know what to expect. l hope you will find the new arrangements helpful.

Yours ever,


PS. Click here to print and/or download a copy of the new pattern of services.